Pet Language Peeve of the Week
"I have sex with..."
I see it termed this way every once in a while in discussions regarding sex. It bugs the shit out of me for some reason. A mutually consenting phrase would be "We have sex..." That's something you do together, whereas I->verb->whatever is so one-way. See, even the little arrows show how that one-way thing works!
We know you verbed, but did the other person verb back? Did you verb together? If you're the only one who verbed, you could just as easily say that you verbed something that doesn't even have the ability to verb in the same manner, like a vacuum cleaner. Perhaps you verb with a vacuum, but it's unlikely that you and the vacuum verbed together. "The vacuum and I, we verb. It's beautiful."
Ick, right? Well, that's how I feel about "I have sex with..."
for the NNAF
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See I hate it when people say "I want to make love to you" that's where a well placed 'with' is needed. I'd rather make love with someone than to someone.
Exactly. That one makes my skin crawl.
Can I add all of those phrases like "she gave it up to him" and "she let him have some"??? All of the phrases that convey that the woman is allowing the man to have his pleasure as if it were an act of charity that she must suffer through. She is a tool for his masturbation.
Yup, as well as gems like "put out" and "got laid", which is the more obvious stuff. I'd seen the "have sex with" one I posted about twice in the past few days in comments elsewhere, from people who weren't exactly being trolls. That bugs me more, almost, since they probably don't even realize it sounds the same as the ones who use more obvious, obnoxious statements.
I see it from women as much as men. I ask them: "Were you participating or just servicing him?"
I see it from women as much as men. I ask them: "Were you participating or just servicing him?"
And there's a million reasons for that, but hard to determine since phrasing things this way is so pervasive. Doesn't change how it bugs me though, perhaps because I know that "gave it up" really was the most accurate description of many encounters I had.
Yeah, well, life sucks and all that. I had to work backwards, you know. I am now at the point where I'm looking at guys all googly-eyed. I suspect in a few years I'll think they all have cooties. Kidding. Kinda.
Sorry if I offended.
I swore I chose the stupid comment to delete, but it deleted the wrong one (the one I replied to before this comment). I did not check the "delete forever - unrecoverable" option, so I don't know why the heck it wouldn't let me restore it. So, that one was a system fart.
The other one was just stupid, but don't take it wrong. I ignored the comment at first when I replied, then decided shit, ignoring litter doesn't do anything to reduce litter. Or something like that.
lol - I put up a post on Mispronunciations not that long ago because my SO says "wif" insteaf of "with" and it bugs the shit out of me. When I asked him if he noticed, he said no, not really. Then, he asked if I would correct him if he were a black guy saying "ax" instead of "ask."
Yeah, we sorta got into it but I mostly choose to take it to my blog. He's usually pretty good at getting the point though...
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